The coming together of two families following a wedding is a complicated business, but one with many rewards. If you have children and are getting ready to marry someone who also has kiddies, keep the following tips and advice in mind to navigate the often-complex waters of family blending.
Take It Day By Day
Forget feeling anxious about the future because nothing is working out as quickly as you hoped right now. Take things with your new family day by day and celebrate small breakthroughs and triumphs as they come, such as being asked by your stepchildren to help with homework or decide on an outfit.
Remember to stay patient, as difficult as it can be sometimes. The blending of two families is something that takes time--it is rarely, if ever, an overnight process. Remind yourself how lucky you are to have found your soul mate to help you focus on staying patient, as doing so can be a godsend on days when you feel your patience running out!
Dismiss The Idea Of Perfection
Stop thinking things will be perfect by next week, next month, next year, etc. It is never, ever going to happen, and that's okay. The kids are not always going to get along, the house is going to get messy, and it's probably going to be loud a lot of the time. Rather than striving for perfection, feel lucky to have more children in your life. After all, you will get to help them become amazing adults.
Stay supportive of your partner's parenting decisions. If you disagree on something, talk about it in private rather than arguing in front of the kids. Remember, barring death your partners' kids already have a mother. It is not your job to replace their mom, but it is your job to be a supportive role model.
Keep these tips in mind....and keep working at it!
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