"Can I Wear White?" & Other Second Wedding Questions

If you're getting ready to say "I do" for the second time and have a few questions, you are hardly alone. Use the following answers to settle any fears or concerns you have, and remember to have fun! This is your chance to do everything you didn't get to do the first time, so enjoy it!

"Can I Wear A White Wedding Dress?

Absolutely! It is perfectly acceptable for second, third, and even fourth-time brides to wear white. It is no longer the symbol of virginity, but if you still have reservations, go for an ivory or other off-white gown. Don't worry about wearing a simple, conservative dress either--if you want to wear a frock that makes you feel like a fairy princess, do it. Wear whatever makes you feel beautiful and comfortable.

"What Should I Do About The Invitations?"

Send the invitations as per normal wedding etiquette. Second weddings are often paid for by the couple, so you don't have to worry about mentioning your parents if you do not want to. If your grown children are hosting the nuptials, be sure to include their names on the invitations.

"How About My Vows?"

Feel free to write your own vows, or get ideas from sites such as I Do, Take Two. It is very likely you have a much better idea of what marriage means to you, so feel free to get creative and say what is truly in your heart.

"Should I Involve My Kids?"

Yes! Put the kids in the wedding, have them do readings, involve them in a unity candle or family medallion ceremony, etc. Whatever you decide, let them know they are an important part of your wedding day and you want to share this special event with them.

Keep these tips in mind as you plan your second wedding! Have fun!