How can step-parents best form bonds with their stepchildren? When a parent re-marries, it’s not unusual for children to go through a period of re-adjustment. Sometimes this can be a rather painful and difficult experience for everyone concerned.
In most of the articles you read authors look at the view of the parents. However, imagine being a preschooler who's mom is getting remarried. A new man has suddenly moved into the house and begun taking a lot of her mom's time and attention. Up to this point she has had mom all to herself, but now they have to share her with this “random guy.” And to top it all off, this man is now telling her what to do and punishing her when she isn't behaving well. You know what she's thinking, “I wish he would just leave!”
What’s the answer? Mom needs to have her new husband work extra-hard to develop a bond with this confused preschooler. It won’t be easy, but it’s part of the challenge of building a successful blended family. It will mean taking a sincere interest in the child and spending lots of special one-on-one time together. In particular, the husband will want to go out of his way to praise her when she is well behaved. At the same time, the mom needs to think about ways to formally supplement what he’s doing through family events, get togethers and even think about a formal ceremony using a Family Medallion pendant or ring as the sign of bringing families together.
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